Imagine with me.

It’s Saturday afternoon and you are spending some time at the mall. You walk into a department store in search of the perfect outfit for a family dinner that evening. You want an outfit that represents your personal sense of style and complements your body type.

You arrive at the women’s department to see the store only carries pink shirts and khaki pants, all the same cookie-cutter style. Rows upon rows of the same two items.

What you need to find during this shopping trip is a pair of blue jeans and a nice sweater. These items aren’t available, so you must compromise.

You begin to search for your size. Looking through the racks of pink shirts you realize they only carry one size: a 6.

A size 6 will not fit your body. You are disheartened, frustrated and angry. The variety you need to complement your life and size is nowhere to be found because this store has decided that not only does one size fit all but one style fits all as well.

As women, we will never be one size fits all. We have different curves in different places. Some are tall and some are short. Some are sticks and some are plump.

We require a variety of styles and sizes to enable us to be comfortable and confident with our wardrobe.

Clothing is just the tip of the iceberg. Humans are wired differently. We have different personalities, likes and dislikes, goals and dreams. Our differences are what make us interesting.

Since the launch of momaha.com in December, the bloggers and mommy forums have sparked many debates regarding the size/style of parenting. I have participated and/or read debates on:

Drug-free vs. epidural delivery.

Working moms vs. stay at home moms.

Spanking vs. natural consequences.

These are all valid choices that we as mothers have to make. Every engaged parent makes these and plenty of other decisions with great care. For example, the decision on whether or not to work as a mother comes from discussions of personality, income, education level, models for children, lifestyle, goals, etc.

While its healthy to explore other choices and decisions, I feel it’s a slippery slope when mothers start attacking one another. I haven’t met a mom yet who made a choice to work or stay at home, spank their child, breast or bottle feed, flippantly. A family walks through these discussions to find the best fit for their individual family.

The judgement and chastisement I have seen from some women is saddening. We are a community sharing similar experiences with a common goal: to raise healthy and intelligent children. Whether we go about this process as a working mother or a stay-at-home mother, deliver with meds or without, or come from a divorced or intact family, our goals are similar.

One parenting style/choice will not fit every family, income or lifestyle. Isn’t it possible to enjoy our differences? Learn from each other's mistakes and triumphs? Love and support each other?

One of my favorite quotes comes from a mommy blogger in California, Jessica Gotlieb. She tweeted, “The greatest act of feminism is to be kind to other women. This isn't a contest.” This quote spoke volumes to me as I consider my goals as a woman in our community. I am not in a competition with you to keep my house cleaner, be skinnier or sexier, or have the perfect parenting style. I am in this community to have a positive impact, to love and accept, and to grow personally.

What an opportunity we have through an online forum of Omaha mothers to expand our knowledge, make life-long friends, grow as people and as mothers. My goal is to capitalize on this experience. Growing. Learning. Loving. Supporting.

I rejoice in the fact that parenting is not one-size-fits all.

Sarah Tucker is married with five children. She works from home.